This two-part article by Cora Harrington and Mey is an absolutely fabulous look at body policing, snarking and the completely inappropriate flinging about of the t-word - from both cis and trans experiences.
Obviously, trigger warning for mentioned transphobic comments (and general body policing).
Do read the ENTIRE article, because it won’t make sense and/or you’ll miss perspectives if you don’t.
Several times over the last year or so I’ve gotten a comment about how I’m not “diverse” enough a blog despite claiming to be body diverse.
For the record, this is what I say in my “about” section:
Editorials, articles, commercials and even our own communities tell us things about acceptable body diversity every day. Here we like to celebrate when these things are broken down, and the way we can celebrate ourselves - all sorts of marginalized bodies.
So, yes. This is not diverse enough a blog. It started out as a fat-positivity blog but yes, my mission is to represent marginalized bodies, and I often fail to do that. Yet, for some reason, the people who come to me are not wanting me to post more POCs, gender nonconforming or trans people, disabled people, people with body hair or scarring or natural hair or — whatever is currently being fed to us as not beautiful, freakish, fetishistic. The people who come to me are UNIVERSALLY complaining that I don’t post enough thin people.
On this blog, you will not see me denigrate thin bodies. You will not see me claim fat is better than thin. You will not see me mock EDs or tell someone to eat a cookie. And you will see thin bodies sometimes for a variety of reasons.
But you will not see them just for the sake of diversity or because sometimes thin people feel shitty. Thin people are not marginalized in our society. Thin privilege is real. There are a lot more places that will reinforce that you can be beautiful and successful if you are thin, cis, and able than anything else. And yes, that doesn’t mean that you as a thin (white, cis, able) person are not being force fed the same messages to change, to hate yourself, to buy buy buy, and it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t love yourself or that you don’t feel shitty.
But it’s not my focus. It’s not going to be my focus. And it’s not what I claim, either.
Hi my name is James and I am gender queer. Like so many, I was told that being fat was wrong and bad. That I was disgusting. I tried so hard to be what they wanted, which was thinner. Because of places and blogs like this, I learned to love myself. I learned, I was beautiful and that me being fat was not disgusting. What was disgusting was how my family or some of them handled it towards me. I want everyone to know you are not alone and there are people out there like you. You are loved and you are not disgusting. But you are beautiful.<3
i will be successful in this industry… not because people tell me i should be DESPITE how i look… but because I’m fucking talented, and beautiful
The Padded Lillies:
synchronized swimming, body-acceptance, fat-empowerment, and fitness at any size.
Hey if you miss Re/Dress you should totally consider investing in the awesome of Rachel Cupcake of Cupcake and Cuddlebunny fame who bought the Re/Dress name from Deb and is working to restore Re/Dress to it’s former glory (and hopefully be even better, especially online). Rachel is an awesome person very committed to plus size fashion and I think Re/Dress has great things in store for everyone. She’s got one week left of the campaign. Please reblog this link if you’re inclined and throw in a few bucks and maybe buy some teggings.
Hey there, you! Re/Dress is under new ownership and newbie bosslady Rachel Kacenjar needs you to help make her launch super successful. Some things that Re/Dress wants to do:
-offer larger sizes
-offer masculine styles
-reopen a storefront
GET ON IT!!! We need you!
Please consider donating! Even if you only have $5 to give, Re/Dress is *so close* to making their goal and all of our plus-size clothing dreams come true! I know Rachel Kacenjar personally and not only is she an amazeballs designer, she is also a fierce fat activist & board member of NOLOSE. Her work is so important, and I hope we can all help make the Re/Dress relaunch happen. <3
Lisa here!! Been a bit since I posted!! Had a goth steampunk kinda day!!
I want to interpret that as “this is what I wore to pick up groceries” so I’m gonna.
Whoops meant to reblog this here, sorry if you see this twice.